Let’s talk about setbacks, friend.
I went off the grid for four months, and with good reason. You may have read about my horrible, terrible, very bad few months where I had the one-two punch of my business exploding and my husband being diagnosed with thyroid cancer. (Read all about that, here.)
I felt scared, stuck, and most certainly set back.
Immediately, I dropped everything and focused on my family. The first priority researching doctors and having lab tests. Then it was all about surgery and recovery. We had to keep things “normal” for our kiddo and at the same time let family and friends know what was going on without causing alarm.
At the same time, I had to figure out how to move forward in my biz. I had put 6 months of serious work (and money) getting ready for this launch. Now, I had to both find a new product name and have *hundreds* of marketing assets tweaked. This re-do cost me thousands of dollars, precious time, and faith in my idea.
I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t think clearly. My back was killing me (a physical trigger I get from stress). And most of all, I had a running litany in my head that ranged from “what will I do if my husband dies?” to “you will never ever ever launch your business.” In short, a pretty awful place be.
And then I took a break.
Summer was, well, amazing. My husband has worked remotely for an Australian company for ten years, and because Australia rocks, Australian companies give a *paid* 3 month sabbatical to employees at the ten-year mark. (If you’re American or work for an American company, you’ll know that is simply unheard of here.)
Neither one of us wanted to be away that long, but we definitely wanted an adventure. So we planned an incredible trip to Naples, Capri, Positano, the Provence region of France, with an added bonus of a weekend in Prague to see dear old friends. Aaaaand, I had a kajillion Singapore Airlines miles expiring, so after about 40 calls and super miles ninja moves, I got us free seats. In business class. Boom.
More than ever, that trip feels like a very special gift for all of us. Our family went into exploration mode, walking around castles, Roman ruins, and the back roads of many a small village. My husband and I had unrushed conversations, often over simple, beautiful meals. Our six-year-old daughter grew in confidence and ability, and we joyfully played with her, catching frogs, swimming, and trying new treats.
To give you a little mental taste of that glorious trip: here’s a picture of a “beach club” in Positano. Not fancy but totally local and lovely. You reserve your chair and lunch time, and a free water taxi takes you to the beach cove where you basically lay, play, and swim until you’re ready to have a lovely meal: maybe a Caprese salad, grilled fish caught an hour ago, and a cheeky glass of local white wine with chilled peaches. Molto bene!
And now I’m back. Physically, mentally, emotionally.
And guess what? I feel renewed and invigorated. I’m confident I can help my customers supercharge their businesses, (even if that means starting the darn thing!, and I can’t wait to welcome the first participants for my new program, She Gets Business.
Our kiddo has started first grade (woot! woot!) and told me last night, “you know, Mom, first grade is actually super fun!” My husband is feeling great, and we’re crossing fingers that he doesn’t have to do radiation.
In short, there’s a lot to be grateful for. And here’s something I now know for sure:
Setbacks serve a purpose.
They give us time to pause and reflect. They shine a light on what is most important in our lives. They tell us that we need to give ourselves a little more love and care.
And here’s what setbacks DON’T do.
They don’t define us and they sure as heck don’t determine what we’re capable of!
So if you’re scared, stuck, or fighting a setback, take a deep breath. Book yourself in for some self-care – a massage, a walk with a friend, maybe an hour of silence and reflection. You’re going to get through it. Promise.
What do you need RIGHT NOW to move your business forward?
I’m creating a bunch of *new free training* for you. So what do you most need, right now?
Have a great week. (And schedule in a little self-care. You deserve it, and you need it.)
Wendy is the creator and founder of She Gets Business, an online community and five-week program for women who are ready to create the life they love, make the money they crave, and build something they’re super proud of.
She’s an experienced business coach, mentor, and teacher with a great love for education, technology, and empowering women and girls. She has 12+ years experience with companies like Adobe, Apple, and Google, and has coached oodles of entrepreneurs with products ranging from fancy frying pans to enterprise software.
Her true love is teaching women how they can apply these best practices to their own small business, take their business to the next level, and flourish.
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